Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Start a new life

Every girl dreams about her marriage and the things that she would do. I remember playing house and imagining how things would be in my wedding. Hell, I spend hours on Pinterest and happily imagine how my wedding is going to be.
Isn't that something every girl does? As I grew up and monopoly and life became more interesting than just playing house.
As boys came into my life and I started   getting to know the other gender, it was all new experiences altogether.
It was time when my friends started getting into relationship and before I knew it I was in one. It was a long relationship almost 4 years however it did seem very serious that time, looking back I can say that it was all childish.
Moving on, after this was over, I got into another relationship and it was a long long one. 6 years to be exact. At the same time I took my time to figure out my life, what u enjoy doing, creating my experience and getting a lot of exposure. By the time I did all this and took my own sweet time to figure out my life I realised that my friends were getting married and that his parents were telling us to get married.
Not that I am still in my teens but I am certainly not ready to get married. The pressure was making me nervous and it definitely was not healthy. Not that I didn't want to get married, it was just too soon for me. I had some career goals to achieve and marriage was not in my list.
It realised it was time for me to pick between my career and marriage. There was a time, however a for a very small time when I decided to actually get married. I realised that I wasn't happy with it but it felt as if it was my job or duty to get married at time.
Few months later I knew it was now or never. Job and a career or marriage?
I realised that if my future family cannot understand my needs and goals right now then maybe they would never understand and the risk which that maybe gave me a risk that I wasn't ready to take.
I knew the best thing for me to do at that time was to choose my career and follow the path towards my goal.
I knew it was time to #StartANewLife.
I broke up and started a life which was made with my decisions and goals.
Of course it was difficult. I asked a friend if I made the right decision and the response was a big NO
It definitely wasn't easy when you friends are getting married and when your family and parents inquire about my marriage plans.
I knew I had made the right decision and if I had got married it would have just kept nagging me that I was doing something against my will.


  1. and I am sure that was a GOOD decision ..
    Well done and my best wishes

    1. Thank you :) It really was a good decision