Sunday, November 25, 2018

2. Too early to get married?





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Three years have passed.

It was a breeze, she ensured that she made the most of her college life, learnt everything possible during her academic years, submitted projects and assignments on time, actively participated in college fests and other events, was the class representative for all three years, completed three internships and all was well.

The professor and she had also started texting each other – harmless, cute to an extent.
It couldn’t go any further anyway, she already had a boyfriend. They had been dating for close to 5 years then. Things weren’t great with them at the moment but they were still working it out. Rahul was six years elder to her, obviously he always reached different stages of life before she did. The only ‘grown up’ thing that she did before Rahul was earn money; she had been working in plays as a child actress. Acting never really came to her naturally but it was something she explored as a hobby, always knowing that she wanted to write for a living.

So, Rahul was now in the ‘Wedding Phase’ all his friends were getting married or popping kids and his family also had started pressurising him to get married. Now that everyone knew that they have been dating for 5 years, they easily assumed that we will tie knot soon.

She was however in a different frame of mind, she wanted to study, secure a career, live life like a strong professional independent woman and then get married. You know, live a life before tying the knot – she didn’t want to just move from her maternal home to her husband’s home – she wanted to explore living on her own as well. Not that she didn’t want to get married to Rahul, she just, wanted some more time.

The pressure was stressing her out and it was affecting her mental peace and harmony. She started getting annoyed at the smallest of the things, started avoiding visiting Rahul’s home or even getting intimate with him, hung out with friends a little less just because she didn’t want to constantly keep defending herself for delaying the wedding.

Saturday, November 17, 2018

1. The cute professor on the block


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She can vividly remember when she first saw him – walking into the college with a backpack, his walk wasn’t straight nor was it lopsided, she liked to call it a ‘penguin walk’. The sunlight crept into the hollow walkway from a narrow door; he emerged right from the sunlight making a silhouette of sorts.

“Is that the professor you were talking about?” She asked a second year student
“Yes! Suyash sir”

She has heard about him before, a teacher who is not as strict and is more like a friend to the students. Everyone loved him, few girls even had a crush on him and why not, he was cute! She also started liking him. That is the thing about BMM, the course was barely a decade old and often required practical learning thus people from the industry were called in to take up a few subjects. Since these industry experts are professionals and not really teachers, they are fairly young and have a good rapport with the students.

“Well, he is cute, he will teach me next year no?” she said with a glint of aww in her eyes.
“Yes, but you can attend his lecture today with me if you want. We have an open door policy here. 
You can attend other lectures as long as you don’t bunk your own lectures.”

She was a sincere student, attended all lectures, completed all the assignments, always on time, from that day onwards, she started attending his lectures regularly as well.

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This is a piece of imagination, so if it feels like it is about you – it is not. I have been trying to get myself to write stories for a while now; I never really got to it. Finally, I am trying with this series; hopefully you’ll enjoy reading it as much I am enjoying writing it.


1. The cute professor on the block
2. Too early to get married?





Saturday, May 5, 2018

Understanding Depression – One Step at a Time




We hear the word depression often; social media keeps talking about it. Have we ever paused to check if people around us might be depressed?

There are signs then why do we not notice and push the person to a saturation point and the person has to do something drastic.

One tragic incident has the potential of immediately harming a person or at times, it is a long term process until the person reaches the breaking point. That breaking point could be something very minimal but the effects of it could be huge.

Snap out of it is not going to happen
A lot of people tell depressed people to just get over it and get better.  Saying  “Try to get better” is not going to make everything fine. Trust me, the person was already trying; they are not waiting for you to come tell them to do that. Being depressed is not a trip to lala land, no one willingly wants to be depressed. They just are.

A depressed person can smile
Another misconception is that depressed people do not smile or laugh or spend some nice time. There could be times when you are not able to tell the difference between a depressed and not depressed person. A person suffering from depression can have a couple of hours smiling and dancing but what happens after that is what counts. The sleepless nights, the nightmares during whatever little sleep they get, the anxiety and panic attacks, the lack of energy, the lack of will to live.
Not that I have read up a lot but  a number of famous people who have killed themselves due to depression were behaving just fine a couple of hours or days before they took that step. Their closed ones didn’t anticipate something like this would happen.

No coffee will cover up the drop in energy
This is not like a drop in energy after a heavy meal. This lack in energy makes them not want to get out of bed or even open their eyes. This lack in energy would not allow them to move at times and staying still and staring into the distance becomes normal.

Everyday things can feel like a big task
Like I mentioned in the earlier point, waking up is a task. Doing normal everyday things seem like a huge deal for them. Waking up, getting ready, concentrating, smiling, interacting with people becomes difficult. And because a lot of people do not understand this, this can become a barrier between them and the society. This barrier pushes them further into depression.

It’s not the same for everyone
This is not a one-size-fits-all dress, depression is different for everyone and the way the cope with it is also different. Understand the difference and try to be supportive whenever possible.

There is no one reason or maybe there is
What leads to depression is as diverse as humans itself. A major incident can be the cause of depression. At times, the person is already battling depression that people are not aware of and then one incident can trigger a full blown depression war.
Again, the trigger can be diverse, it may seem like a non-issue for you but it does make a huge impact on the depressed person. Be a little sensitive.

They don’t want to feel like a burden and let you down, the pressure is killing
It can be tricky to deal with this situation, asking them to snap out of it or mentioning that they are over doing it or saying that they seeking attention etc would not help. They don’t want to let you down or ruin your good mood, claiming that they are doing so puts pressure on them. They feel like a burden and that they are letting you down.

They appreciate your effort
I understand that it may not look like it but they are appreciating your efforts. They are just not able to express them yet.

What you can do help a depressed person:
  • Understand that they are not doing this on purpose
  • Try to find out the reason and see if you can help make it better. Remember that this won’t immediately snap them out of depression but you sure are on the right path
  • Talk to them
  • Do not try to win the conversation. Who is right and who is wrong is not the concern here. It definitely won’t matter if this right and wrong may lead to the person hurting themselves
  • Travel – going someplace new can be a good way to help the person
  • Be supportive and show that you love them






Saturday, March 17, 2018

Overcome stage fright | Tips for first time speakers





Public speaking can be challenging for a few people, but it need not be so. Just a little bit of practice and confidence can help you be confident on stage!

With a little bit of theatre experience and some experience of hosting events during my academic years, I think I have gathered few tips or hacks that help me be confident on stage. Sharing the same with you, hoping they will help.

Do not memorise
People often tend to memorise their script and the problem with this is that in case you lose the thread on stage, you might just fumble and this may cause you to panic. Instead do memorise the script but tweak it according to you, memorise it like a dialogue, like talking to a friend. This way, if you forget on stage, you still know what the crux of the topic is and can continue using your own words. Then pause after completing the thought/sentence – look at the script in hand and get back on track.
Get comfortable with silence, do not read out / say everything at a go. Pause. Collect your thoughts. Go on.

Be confident
This could be a little narcissistic or people may call it over confidence, but two hours before I go on stage I tell myself that I am the best! Like really the best! The most amazing person ever! And no one else is as good enough as me. This boost of energy and confidence gives helps me stay confident on stage and thus makes me do a good job.

Pointers
Make pointers on your script, highlight the important parts, this way just glancing at the script will help stay on track.

Don’t be blinded
If this is a proper stage set up in a theatre or an auditorium, understand that there will be lots of lights and it would actually be difficult to look at your audience beyond the first few rows. Do make sure that you maintain audience interaction even if you cannot see them. It would be easier to maintain eye contact with the first few rows, beyond that jus assume you are looking at people or look at the end wall of the auditorium.

Prep for it
Get to the venue a little earlier, read out a few lines for the empty chairs, do a sound check. The point here is to get comfortable, you do not know the audience and that’s your element of surprise, anything other than that – you should be aware of beforehand.

Get comfortable with you mic
if it is a lapel mic (clip on mic) make sure you are not wearing a necklace which might accidently bump against the mic causing a loud sound. Using a lapel mic also means you’ll have a batter pack attached at the back of your trousers. If you are wearing a dress, try using a belt inside the dress or wear a dress with pockets.

Slides are to guide you!
Often, people start reading the slides during a presentation. Do Not Do That! Slides are to guide you, use it as a prompter, let what you are saying be more informative.




Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Celebrity Style Decoded - 1




Dress like your favorite Celebrity, here's where you can buy items similar to what your favorite celebrity was wearing.

Malaika Arora
Move over little black dress, the red velvet dress is here to rock!

Pic Credit: https://www.ndtv.com/entertainment/malaika-arora-trolled-for-too-short-dress-really-internet-1788241

We have three similar dresses that you can opt for:

1. http://www.shein.in/Mock-Neck-Frill-Detail-Velvet-Dress-p-385451-cat-1727.html
2. http://www.shein.in/V-Neckline-Swing-Dress-p-388565-cat-1727.html
3. http://www.shein.in/Burgundy-Ruched-Asymmetric-Velvet-Cami-Dress-p-313579-cat-1727.html


Alia Bhatt
An outfit that is perfect for a causal day out and yet, if required, can be dressed up for a fancier event


Although we couldn't find the exact replica, we did manage to find something that was close enough

1. http://www.koovs.com/koovs-spot-mesh-ruffle-cami-dress-100574.html?skuid=425533&gclid=Cj0KCQjw7Z3VBRC-ARIsAEQifZS1SAJhdDH6m-rG4F1MenslZV11_ajWizblLkpQCpiJfjQHGHm3_30aAvd6EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

2. http://www.shein.in/Half-Placket-Polka-Dot-Ruffle-Dress-p-434429-cat-1727.html

Sonakshi Sinha

Sonakshi was seen sporting this floral top with jeans, making it the perfect causal outfit for everyday or for when you are running late and need a quick fix.


http://bit.ly/2FxIiBw

Although, I couldn't find the exact copy, I have mentioned some similar floral tops.

1. http://www.koovs.com/koovs-crop-shirt-26-101843.html?skuid=432599
2. http://www.shein.in/Scallop-Trim-Floral-Top-p-423741-cat-1890.html
3. http://amzn.to/2pbQoEQ
4. http://amzn.to/2FAR2Hb

Want me to share links for some other looks? Let me know what you would like to see next on the blog in the comments below. 




Monday, March 5, 2018

Sail under the Bandra Worli Sea Link with Mumbai Maiden



The reason why I love Mumbai so much is that the city never stops surprising you. The city has so much to offer – culture, history, tradition, fast paced life, the sea, the traffic, the pollution and the spirit to never stop living your life.

Every couple of months if not every couple of weeks, there is something happening in the city that makes you want to look forward to the weekend. You spend the weekend exploring and relaxing and doing something that will help you recharge for the week coming up.

I recently spent my Saturday evening, doing just that. I cruise ship ride just off the Mahim coast. Mumbai Maiden was launched recently in collaboration with Maharashtra Tourism, it is the perfect way to bring in your weekend and recharge yourself for the week to come.

The ship sails from under the Bandra – Worli sea link giving you a beautiful view of the underbelly of this iconic structure and the providing with you a stunning view of the Mumbai Skyline. The ship then sails along the Mumbai coastline. You can get onboard the cruise from Bandra Jetty; a speed boat will take you to Mumbai Maiden which is anchored in the sea.

The ship is an initiative by SSR Marine Services, a private marine company in joint collaboration with Maharashtra Tourism Development Corporation (MTDC). 

The ship has two levels and the upper deck, which can easily accommodate 285 passengers plus a 15 member crew across its various levels.

It has a restaurant at the ground level of the ship to handle any F&B requirement.   Besides this the ship has a banquet hall at the 2nd level which can be available for hosting events, the Upper deck would be the focal point where people get to enjoy the panoramic view of the shoreline and sea beyond.  

It has all the amenities for the comfort of a passenger with well trained staff and equipment to oversee the safety and security onboard. 

The ship is spacious and great for a get together or a party or even an office team outing / bonding session. As the sun sets, the ship cruises into the city waters, the wind in your hair and the soothing breeze is enough to calm anyone down.

I boarded the speed boat from Bandra jetty and ventured towards Mumbai Maiden which was anchored in the sea, once onboard, I went around the ship once quickly and somehow stumbled into the main control room, the captain was nice enough to invite me in and explain me the various aspects of sailing a ship and the radar and the safety precautions.

After an informative session with the captain, I went to the upper deck which is so spacious; it has enough seating arrangements as well. I quickly grabbed a seat and lounged there with some coffee. 

The sea is so calming that I didn’t wish to get off the ship. Sitting there with a bustling city on one side and the calm and vast ocean on the other side, sipping on my coffee and reflecting on my thoughts was indeed bliss.



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Monday, January 29, 2018

Bose at every step - Everyday Companion


Keeping up with blogging and a full time job can get tough, today was one such day. She woke up a little late and missed going to the gym, she did a quick calculation in her head and realised that going to the gym now means getting late for work again. She hurriedly got ready for work and stormed out the front door. Just as she reached the elevator she realised she had forgotten her Bose QuietComfort 35 wireless headphones II. Quickly dashed back home, grabbed her headphones and made it to the elevator in under 15seconds.

As soon as she got into the elevator she used the built-in Google Assistant on her headphone to find out the traffic situation on her way to work. When google informed her that there in fact is not much traffic on the way today, she decided to take the bus and save some money by ditching the cab.

The Acoustic Noise Cancelling technology in her headphones drowned away the traffic noise making sure that she enjoyed her music on her way to work.  She never worried about using her headphone out and about around the town as they are made with impact-resistant materials, glass filled nylon and corrosion resistant stainless steel which ensures that they live a long long life.

As she reached work, she quickly grabbed a cup of coffee, asked her google assistant to remind her of a conference call at 4pm and got to work. She reduced the level of noise cancellation to make sure that she still is able to hear her colleagues and her office landline ringing. The Volume-optimised EQ made sure that the music played in high quality. She even uses her headphones to answer calls, the phone calls are clear and audible even when she is in a noisy or windy place.

Although she was using listening to music all day, she need not charge the headphones. A single charge can last her for 20 hours. Still she quickly charged the headphone during her lunch break; a 15-minute charge gives you another 2.5 hours

The headphone notified her about her conference call.

After a long day at work, it was time to head home. The plush ear cushion made sure that the headphone did not irritate her all day.

As she reached home, she charged her everyday companion for a new day tomorrow.





Monday, January 22, 2018

The beauty of not caring




If you look around you’ll notice that a number of people around you are stressed or dealing with anxiety. It is not only common but scary when you notice its rapid growth. I deal with anxiety at times, it was after I noticed that this was a growing concern I began to divert my mind and honestly Just Stopped Caring!

Not caring can be associated with a negative quality, but at times, that is all you require to lead a happier, carefree and positive life.

Less stress
The biggest and the best benefit of not caring is that it immediately cuts down on your stress levels. The minute you stop caring, you do not have anything to worry about!

Only people who matter, matter
Not caring doesn’t mean you withdraw from everyone and not be available to them during tough times or when they need you. Not caring also doesn’t mean that you don’t empathize with your closed people.
Make sure you have a clear idea about people who matter to you, people who are important to you. People other than your close knit circle is not your concern and you should worry less about them.

More time to focus on important things
When you stop worrying about, you have more time to focus on good and more important things in your life. It frees up sometime for you to indulge in an activity that makes you happy.

Hobby
Continuing the above topic – free time means you can finally take up that hobby you always wanted to. You can learn to play an instrument, read or listen to music or binge watch a series. Anything that makes you calm down, relax and take your mind off everything else.

Always happy
The Biggest perk of not caring is that you tend to be a happier person, you are in your own Lala-Land and that’s just perfect for me. 

Thursday, January 11, 2018

Grow curry leaves at home in 5 easy steps| How to save your dying curry leaves plant




I recently got into growing herbs and edibles at home; I am still learning myself and thus experimenting one plant at a time.

Tip: For beginners, I would suggest to buy an already potted plant from a nursery. Growing plants from seed can take months or even years. Having an already potted plant is easy to take care of and is generally sturdier than the one which is just growing from seed.

I had got my curry leaf plant from a nursery but after buying it, I realised that it was dry, unhealthy and wasn’t growing at all. I tried providing it with fertilisers and nutrients but all failed. The only option I had was to prune it.

If you have a curry leaf plant which is not growing or is unhealthy then you can do the same thing.
            Step 1: harvest all the healthy leaves (if any)

Step 2: cut off the branches at the nodes. Node is where a plant grows from. Make sure you make a clean cut.

Step 3:  water it everyday in the morning. Curry leaf plant loves water but do not over do it. Watering once a day is enough.

Step 4: add fertilizers, I personally add some tea leaves every week. If you have a healthy and nutrient rich soil, you can skip this step. If you do not have a nutrient rich soil and wish to use organic fertilizers then you can add some tea leaves and cut up organic kitchen waste in the soil. This will decompose naturally and turn into rich manure for the plant.

Step 5: keep watering the plant and a few weeks later you’ll notice new leaves growing.

You now have a healthy green curry leaves plant. You can use the leaves in your food preparations.










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